The Unbroken
by Rashani Réa
There is a brokenness
out of which comes the unbroken,
a shatteredness
out of which blooms the unshatterable.
There is a sorrow
beyond all grief which leads to joy
and a fragility
out of whose depths emerges strength.
There is a hollow space
too vast for words
through which we pass with each loss,
out of whose darkness
we are sanctioned into being.
There is a cry deeper than all sound
whose serrated edges cut the heart
as we break open to the place inside
which is unbreakable and whole,
while learning to sing.
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RECOMMENDED READINGS, VIDEOS AND LINKS:
Anger
- The Anger Solution (Lee)
- Anger-Free (Gentry)
- When Somone You Love is Angry (Gentry)
- The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger (Scheff & Edmiston)
- Transforming Anger (Childre & Rozman)
- The Gift of Anger (Cannon)
Anti-racism Resources
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcqna3Co*gq1HtfLZVrlY5BR-rDu4wg#
Authenticity & Shame Resilience
- I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" (Brené Brown)
- The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown)
- Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
- Rising Strong (Brené Brown)
- Braving the Wilderness (Brené Brown)
- Untamed (Glennon Doyle)
Grief and Loss
- Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (Elizabeth Lesser)
- When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
- Grieving Mindfully: A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss (Sameet M. Kumar)
- The Grief Recovery Handbook (James & Friedman)
- Still a Family: A Guide to Good Parenting Through Divorce (Rene Reynolds)
- https://springhillrecovery.com/coping-with-grief/
Happiness
- The Happiness Advantage (Shawn Achor)
- Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment (Tal Ben-Shahar)
Mindfulness
- Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha (Tara Brach)
- Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life (Thich Nhat Hanh)
- Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
- Calming Your Anxious Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Free You From Anxiety, Fear and Panic (Jeffrey Brantley)
- The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (Christopher Germer)
- The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)
Parenting
- Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting (Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn)
- Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion & Connection - audiobook (Brené Brown)
- Parenting with Love & Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility (Foster Cline & Jim Fay)
- How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Adele Faber)
Relationships
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love (Levine & Heller)
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Sue Johnson)
- We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection and Enduring Love (Stan Tatkin)
- Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Stan Tatkin)
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (Esther Perel)
- Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples (Harville Hendrix)
- Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide (Harville Hendrix)
- Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path From Relationship Addiction to Intimacy (Covington & Beckett)
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Melodie Beattie)
- Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives (Pia Mellody, Miller & Miller)
Sex & Sexuality
- Come As You Are (Emily Nagoski)
- Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, & More Purpose-Filled Life (Nan Wise)
- Pleasure Activism (Adrienne Maree Brown)
- Sexual Intelligence (Marti Klein)
- Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (Staci Haines)
Trauma & Abuse
- Respark Foundation: a 501(c)(3) organization that exists to provide all-inclusive, holistic, and educational care to survivors of sexual harm through therapy, training, retreats, and workshops: resparkfoundation.org/
- Healing Trauma (Peter Levine)
- Awakening Your Sexuality: A Guide for Recovering Women (Covington)
- Healing the Trauma of Abuse: A Woman's Workbook (Copeland & Harris)
- When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding & Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women (Penny Simkin)
- Restoring the Body: Yoga, EMDR, and Treating Trauma: http://onbeing.org/program/restoring-the-body-bessel-van-der-kolk-on-yoga-emdr-and-treating-trauma/5801
- What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience & Healing (Winfrey & Perry): https://open.spotify.com/episode/7GgvaJ3DUL4oQyxtyr86H3?si=SF9NoZO-T429hXorZU3Scw (Unlocking Us interview by Brené Brown with Oprah Winfrey & Dr. Bruce Perry)
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USEFUL LINKS
www.goodtherapy.org/blog/somatic-mindfulness-what-is-my-body-telling-me-and-should-i-listen-0619185
traumahealing.com
brenebrown.com
emdria.org
dharma.org
audiodharma.com
themindfulparent.org
dbtselfhelp.com
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Suicide Hotlines:
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Orange County Rape Crisis Center
24-HOUR HELP LINE:
866-WE-LISTEN (866-935-4783)
Cardinal Innovations Emergency Crisis Services
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The Durham Center, Crisis Hotline
24 hours / 7 days: 1-800-510-9132
Link to Systems of Care : Crisis Information/Resources
NEED HELP NOW?
Suicide Hotlines:
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
Domestic Violence Crisis Services
919-929-7122
Orange County Rape Crisis Center
24-HOUR HELP LINE:
866-WE-LISTEN (866-935-4783)
Cardinal Innovations Emergency Crisis Services
(for Orange, Person and Chatham Counties)
24 hours / 7 days: 1-800-233-6834
The Durham Center, Crisis Hotline
24 hours / 7 days: 1-800-510-9132
Link to Systems of Care : Crisis Information/Resources