The Unbroken
​by Rashani Réa
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There is a brokenness
out of which comes the unbroken,
a shatteredness
out of which blooms the unshatterable.
There is a sorrow
beyond all grief which leads to joy
and a fragility
out of whose depths emerges strength.
There is a hollow space
too vast for words
through which we pass with each loss,
out of whose darkness
we are sanctioned into being.
There is a cry deeper than all sound
whose serrated edges cut the heart
as we break open to the place inside
which is unbreakable and whole,
while learning to sing.
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RECOMMENDED READINGS, VIDEOS & LINKS


Mindfulness
  • Peace is Every Step:  The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life (Thich Nhat Hanh)
  • Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • Calming Your Anxious Mind:  How Mindfulness and Compassion Free You From Anxiety, Fear and Panic (Jeffrey Brantley)
  • The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (Christopher Germer)
  • The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)

Authenticity & Shame Resilience
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't):  Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" (Brené Brown)
  • The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown)
  • Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
  • Rising Strong (Brené Brown)
  • Braving the Wilderness (Brené Brown)

Relationships
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love (Levine & Heller)
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Sue Johnson)
  • Wired for Love:  How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Stan Tatkin)
  • Getting the Love You Want:  A Guide for Couples (Harville Hendrix)
  • Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide (Harville Hendrix)
  • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Terrence Real)
  • Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path From Relationship Addiction to Intimacy (Covington & Beckett)
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Melodie Beattie)
  • The Language of Letting Go (Melodie Beattie)
  • Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives (Pia Mellody, Miller & Miller

Assertiveness & Self-Esteem
  • Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships (Robert Albierti)
  • Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide For Positive Change (Sharon Anthony Bower)
  • The Self-Esteem Workbook (Glenn Schiraldi)

Trauma & Abuse
  • Healing Trauma (Peter Levine)
  • Awakening Your Sexuality:  A Guide for Recovering Women (Covington)
  • Healing the Trauma of Abuse:  A Woman's Workbook (Copeland & Harris)
  • When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding and Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women (Penny Simkin)
  • Restoring the Body: Yoga, EMDR, and Treating Trauma:  http://onbeing.org/program/restoring-the-body-bessel-van-der-kolk-on-yoga-emdr-and-treating-trauma/5801

​Anger
  • The Anger Solution (Lee)
  • Anger-Free (Gentry)
  • When Somone You Love is Angry (Gentry)
  • The Cow in the Parking Lot:  A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger (Scheff & Edmiston)
  • Transforming Anger (Childre & Rozman)
  • The Gift of Anger (Cannon)
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Grief and Loss
  • Broken Open:  How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (Elizabeth Lesser)
  • When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
  • Grieving Mindfully:  A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss (Sameet M. Kumar)
  • The Grief Recovery Handbook (James & Friedman)
  • Still a Family:  A Guide to Good Parenting Through Divorce (Rene Reynolds)

Happiness
  • The Happiness Advantage (Shawn Achor)
  • Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment (Tal Ben-Shahar)

Parenting
  • Everyday Blessings:  The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting (Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • ​Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
  • Parenting with Love & Logic:  Teaching Children Responsibility (Foster Cline & Jim Fay)
  • How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Adele Faber)


USEFUL LINKS

hedaringway.com
traumahealing.com
emdria.org
themindfulparent.org
dharma.org
audiodharma.org
dbtselfhelp.com

Mindfulness Strategies for Working with Trauma and Strong Fear - Tara Brach
https://www.tarabrach.com/?powerpress_pinw=8144-podcast

Four Rituals That Will Make You A Happier Person
http://mobile.businessinsider.com/a-neuroscience-researcher-reveals-4-rituals-that-will-make-you-a-happier-person-2015-9
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Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong
https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?language=en


IN CRISIS?   NEED HELP NOW?​
Suicide Hotlines:
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

Domestic Violence Crisis Services
919-929-7122

Orange County Rape Crisis Center
24-HOUR HELP LINE:
866-WE-LISTEN (866-935-4783)

Cardinal Innovations Emergency Crisis Services
(for Orange, Person and Chatham Counties)
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-233-6834

The Durham Center, Crisis Hotline
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-510-9132