The Unbroken
​by Rashani Réa
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There is a brokenness
out of which comes the unbroken,
a shatteredness
out of which blooms the unshatterable.
There is a sorrow
beyond all grief which leads to joy
and a fragility
out of whose depths emerges strength.
There is a hollow space
too vast for words
through which we pass with each loss,
out of whose darkness
we are sanctioned into being.
There is a cry deeper than all sound
whose serrated edges cut the heart
as we break open to the place inside
which is unbreakable and whole,
while learning to sing.
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RECOMMENDED READINGS, VIDEOS AND LINKS:


​Anger
  • The Anger Solution (Lee)
  • Anger-Free (Gentry)
  • When Somone You Love is Angry (Gentry)
  • The Cow in the Parking Lot:  A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger (Scheff & Edmiston)
  • Transforming Anger (Childre & Rozman)
  • The Gift of Anger (Cannon)

Anti-racism Resources
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcqna3Co*gq1HtfLZVrlY5BR-rDu4wg#

Authenticity & Shame Resilience
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't):  Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" (Brené Brown)
  • The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown)
  • Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
  • Rising Strong (Brené Brown)
  • Braving the Wilderness (Brené Brown)
  • Untamed (Glennon Doyle)

Grief and Loss
  • Broken Open:  How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (Elizabeth Lesser)
  • When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
  • Grieving Mindfully:  A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss (Sameet M. Kumar)
  • The Grief Recovery Handbook (James & Friedman)
  • Still a Family:  A Guide to Good Parenting Through Divorce (Rene Reynolds)
  • https://springhillrecovery.com/coping-with-grief/

Happiness
  • The Happiness Advantage (Shawn Achor)
  • Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment (Tal Ben-Shahar)

Mindfulness
  • Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha (Tara Brach)
  • Peace is Every Step:  The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life (Thich Nhat Hanh)
  • Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • Calming Your Anxious Mind:  How Mindfulness and Compassion Free You From Anxiety, Fear and Panic (Jeffrey Brantley)
  • The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (Christopher Germer)
  • The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)
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Parenting
  • Everyday Blessings:  The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting (Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • Imperfect Parenting:  Raising Children with Courage, Compassion & Connection - audiobook (Brené Brown)
  • Parenting with Love & Logic:  Teaching Children Responsibility (Foster Cline & Jim Fay)
  • How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Adele Faber)

Relationships
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love (Levine & Heller)
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Sue Johnson)
  • We Do:  Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection and Enduring Love (Stan Tatkin)
  • Wired for Love:  How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Stan Tatkin)
  • Mating in Captivity:  Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (Esther Perel)​
  • Getting the Love You Want:  A Guide for Couples (Harville Hendrix)
  • Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide (Harville Hendrix)
  • Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path From Relationship Addiction to Intimacy (Covington & Beckett)
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Melodie Beattie)
  • Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives (Pia Mellody, Miller & Miller)

Sex & Sexuality
  • Come As You Are (Emily Nagoski)
  • Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, & More Purpose-Filled Life (Nan Wise)
  • Pleasure Activism (Adrienne Maree Brown)
  • Sexual Intelligence (Marti Klein)
  • Healing Sex:  A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (Staci Haines)

Trauma & Abuse

USEFUL LINKS
www.goodtherapy.org/blog/somatic-mindfulness-what-is-my-body-telling-me-and-should-i-listen-0619185
traumahealing.com
brenebrown.com
emdria.org
dharma.org
audiodharma.com
themindfulparent.org
dbtselfhelp.com
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IN CRISIS?
NEED HELP NOW?
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Suicide Hotlines:

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline:
When people call, text, or chat 988, they will be connected to trained counselors that are part of the existing Lifeline network. These trained counselors will listen, understand how their problems are affecting them, provide support, and connect them to resources if necessary.   Formerly known as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline @ 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255), this number will remain available to people in emotional distress or suicidal crisis)
​Domestic Violence Crisis Services

919-929-7122

Orange County Rape Crisis Center
24-HOUR HELP LINE:
866-WE-LISTEN (866-935-4783)

Cardinal Innovations Emergency Crisis Services
(for Orange, Person and Chatham Counties)
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-233-6834

The Durham Center, Crisis Hotline
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-510-9132

Link to Systems of Care : Crisis Information/Resources