The Unbroken
​by Rashani Réa
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There is a brokenness
out of which comes the unbroken,
a shatteredness
out of which blooms the unshatterable.
There is a sorrow
beyond all grief which leads to joy
and a fragility
out of whose depths emerges strength.
There is a hollow space
too vast for words
through which we pass with each loss,
out of whose darkness
we are sanctioned into being.
There is a cry deeper than all sound
whose serrated edges cut the heart
as we break open to the place inside
which is unbreakable and whole,
while learning to sing.
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RECOMMENDED READINGS, VIDEOS & LINKS


Mindfulness
  • Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha (Tara Brach)
  • Peace is Every Step:  The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life (Thich Nhat Hanh)
  • Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • Calming Your Anxious Mind:  How Mindfulness and Compassion Free You From Anxiety, Fear and Panic (Jeffrey Brantley)
  • The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (Christopher Germer)
  • The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle)

Authenticity & Shame Resilience
  • I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't):  Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" (Brené Brown)
  • The Gifts of Imperfection (Brené Brown)
  • Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
  • Rising Strong (Brené Brown)
  • Braving the Wilderness (Brené Brown)
  • Untamed (Glennon Doyle)

Sex & Sexuality
  • Come As You Are (Emily Nagoski)
  • Pleasure Activism (Adrienne Maree Brown)
  • Sexual Intelligence (Marti Klein)
  • Healing Sex:  A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (Staci Haines)

Relationships
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love (Levine & Heller)
  • Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Sue Johnson)
  • Wired for Love:  How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Stan Tatkin)
  • Getting the Love You Want:  A Guide for Couples (Harville Hendrix)
  • Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide (Harville Hendrix)
  • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Terrence Real)
  • Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path From Relationship Addiction to Intimacy (Covington & Beckett)
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Melodie Beattie)
  • The Language of Letting Go (Melodie Beattie)
  • Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives (Pia Mellody, Miller & Miller

Assertiveness & Self-Esteem
  • Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships (Robert Albierti)
  • Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide For Positive Change (Sharon Anthony Bower)
  • The Self-Esteem Workbook (Glenn Schiraldi)

Trauma & Abuse
  • Healing Trauma (Peter Levine)
  • Awakening Your Sexuality:  A Guide for Recovering Women (Covington)
  • Healing the Trauma of Abuse:  A Woman's Workbook (Copeland & Harris)
  • When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding & Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women (Penny Simkin)
  • Restoring the Body: Yoga, EMDR, and Treating Trauma:  http://onbeing.org/program/restoring-the-body-bessel-van-der-kolk-on-yoga-emdr-and-treating-trauma/5801

​Anger
  • The Anger Solution (Lee)
  • Anger-Free (Gentry)
  • When Somone You Love is Angry (Gentry)
  • The Cow in the Parking Lot:  A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger (Scheff & Edmiston)
  • Transforming Anger (Childre & Rozman)
  • The Gift of Anger (Cannon)
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Grief and Loss
  • Broken Open:  How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (Elizabeth Lesser)
  • When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
  • Grieving Mindfully:  A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss (Sameet M. Kumar)
  • The Grief Recovery Handbook (James & Friedman)
  • Still a Family:  A Guide to Good Parenting Through Divorce (Rene Reynolds)

Happiness
  • The Happiness Advantage (Shawn Achor)
  • Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment (Tal Ben-Shahar)

Parenting
  • Everyday Blessings:  The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting (Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn)
  • ​Daring Greatly:  How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead (Brené Brown)
  • Parenting with Love & Logic:  Teaching Children Responsibility (Foster Cline & Jim Fay)
  • How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Adele Faber)

USEFUL LINKS
www.goodtherapy.org/blog/somatic-mindfulness-what-is-my-body-telling-me-and-should-i-listen-0619185
traumahealing.org
thedaringway.com
brenebrown.com
emdria.org
dharma.org
audiodharma.com
themindfulparent.org
dbtselfhelp.com
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IN CRISIS?   NEED HELP NOW?​
Suicide Hotlines:
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

Domestic Violence Crisis Services
919-929-7122

Orange County Rape Crisis Center
24-HOUR HELP LINE:
866-WE-LISTEN (866-935-4783)

Cardinal Innovations Emergency Crisis Services
(for Orange, Person and Chatham Counties)
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-233-6834

The Durham Center, Crisis Hotline
24 hours / 7 days:  1-800-510-9132